Just as a short intro, BDSM is built around three different dynamics:
Dominance & Submission (power): one leads, one follows. The dominant gives instructions; the submissive follows and lets go of control.
Bondage & Discipline (restraint & rules): limit movement or create rules. Holding, tying, positioning the body or simple instructions to follow, with consequences if not.
Sadism & Masochism (sensation): playing with physical sensations, including pressure or light pain. It can range from very gentle to more intense, depending on what you’re curious to explore.
Rules of the challenge
Step 1: Book a few hours (or a night) in a dungeon. Getting out of your usual space is part of the challenge
Step 2: Choose 1, 2 or 3 of the categories above, that you feel drawn to explore.
Step 3: Set your roles (who leads, who follows) for the session.
Step 4: To fully immerse and embody your roles, define your boundaries beforehand: what you’re curious to try, and what’s off-limits. Agree on a safeword that immediately stops everything. Once you start, stay in the game, reactions or resistance can be part of the play. The safeword is the only moment that breaks it.
Because it can feel real, make sure you really take the time to talk about consent!
What you need
Tips
Are you curious to see how it went for us? Watch the video of us taking on this challenge here.
What James loved
Domination play is something I love exploring in general so having access to a whole room designed for that purpose is a dream. There’s also something to be said about being outside of your home and into a space that’s made for a specific use. It’s almost like that feeling you get when putting on a mask or costume for a party: it’s a feeling of freedom, like you can be a different persona and go a bit more crazy than you usually would. I think the dungeon environment really helped me step into that role of domination.
As for the sex in itself it was incredible. I felt like a chef building a very elaborated menu of pleasure and frustration for Lola. I loved having the power of knowing what was coming next when she didn’t, teasing her about it. Also, I loved that it broke our usual “linear” routine of Get Naked => Foreplay => Sex => Orgasm. This was so different: first some spanking, then letting her feel the tip of my dick against her pussy lips without going further, then some whipping and some vibrator on her clit while she watches me masturbate, then a few seconds of penetration before going back to making her give me a blowjob, etc. It was so nice to build different levels of intensity over a couple of hours and not have predictable steps to the sex.
Finally, I think people sometimes forget how powerful the brain is when it comes to arousal and sex. It was super special to see how crazy Lola would get when I was dirty talking. Telling her how I would use her as a toy and force her to take my cum on her face while she’s left with only a toy to orgasm (while locked in a cage). You can drive a person really close to orgasm just with words. And opening the imagination part of sex feels like you’re unlocking a whole new level of intimacy and play that I can’t wait to explore more.
Why Lola loved
Physically going to a place that is 100% designed for sex was SO much fun. When we first entered the room, I felt like a kid arriving at an amusement park for the first time. Everything was new, and I wanted to try it all.
I’ve always been into dirty talk, being dominated, even with a touch of humiliation, so I loved being able to explore those fantasies a bit further than usual, thanks to things like the cage and all the different restraint setups that this dungeon had. Looking back, I think we might have gotten a little carried away and tried too many setups 🙈 At times, it felt slightly overwhelming.
I really enjoyed the purpose of the dungeon, and having a space dedicated to sex, so now I’m curious to try other sex rooms, with similar equipment but a different vibe, maybe cozier (smaller, warmer…), to find out what atmosphere I like the most!
We had booked the dungeon for 4 hours in the afternoon, thinking it would be wayyy too much time, but we didn’t want to rush, especially since we were also filming. The host welcomed us and showed us around, explaining how everything worked. It made the whole experience feel really normal (not like something you should hide) and I really appreciated that.
Once she left, we took time to explore the space. The room was HUGE, there were so many setups that you could honestly spend days there without getting bored. We picked about five we really wanted to try, then took a shower before starting.
We had already decided on our roles when we booked it: James would be in charge, and I would obey.
A warming up exploring sensations
We started with my biggest fantasy: the St Andrew’s cross. I had never tried one before and was obsessed with the idea..
There were so many different whips and tools James could use, and once he got me tied up on the cross, he started slowly running different textures along my body, gradually increasing intensity. I was constantly shifting between craving the sensations and anticipating what would come next.
When he decided I’d had enough, he moved me into the cage and locked it, making me work with my mouth for him if I wanted anything more. Being trapped like that turned out to be a new fantasy I didn’t expect, it was like a revelation.
Exposure and humiliation
As things escalated, we moved to the restraint chair. Being held upright with my legs spread and unable to move made me feel incredibly exposed and vulnerable. He left me there with a vibrator, just watching me, casually touching himself in front of me.
At that point, I was beyond ready for more, and I started to get frustrated to not get any penetrative sex.
But when I thought he was about to give it to me, he instead placed me at the pillory, probably the most humiliating setup I’ve ever experienced. Kneeling, bent forward, hands and head locked in place, completely exposed and unable to move. It was also physically very uncomfortable. But at least, he started to penetrate me, because I think at this point he started to really crave it too.
Rough sex and domination
The pillory is a lot of fun, but it’s also super impractical to have sex, so we ended up alternating between the pommel horse and the bondage bed where he energetically took me from behind, playing with a whip at the same time. That was so intense that I was convinced it would end there, but apparently he had other plans…
Back to what I loved most
Things ended in spectacular fashion: seeing how much I enjoyed the cage, James took me back there. Once inside, he made me sit on my knees with only my toy to please myself. He then told me that if I wanted to orgasm I would have to do it like this, at the same time as he would himself come on my face. That’s everything I needed to take me over the edge!
When we stopped recording, we realized we’d been going for two and a half hours, and were so glad we booked the dungeon for so long, so we still had time to shower and unwind before getting on with the rest of our day.
We offer two courses: For Men and For Women.
Each course can be taken independently, but they were designed to complement one another. For the best results, we recommend that both partners take their respective version.
