Rules of the challenge
Step 1: you blindfold him
Step 2: you take control.
Once the mask is on, he keeps it on the entire time, no peeking allowed. The whole point is to keep him disoriented and relying only on his other senses and his imagination. You lead everything: you decide the pace, the sensations, the teasing, and the transitions, and he follows your guidance.
(Before starting, you can also discuss further rules or agree on ‘limits’ about what you both are allowed or not allowed to do.)
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Are you curious to see how it went for us? Watch the video of us taking on this challenge here.
What James loved
I think many of us men struggle with: 1) relying too much on the visual side of things. 2) feeling the pressure to perform or to control the way sex unfolds. So this challenge was really good for me. I loved being able to just relax and be guided.
I had to build this mental picture of what was happening in front of me just from my hands gliding on Lola’s body and the sounds I could hear: equally frustrating and exciting! And she did it so well: at one point I could tell she got into a position she’s never used before in all our time together. Standing with legs wide and bent over so that I, who was sitting on the bed, could eat her out. Imagining the view without being able to see it, and knowing I’ve never seen her do that before, drove me crazy.
What Lola loved
What I enjoyed most about this experience was the shift in dynamics between us. Even though he usually likes to lead, this time he completely surrendered. That change felt incredibly exciting. It was genuinely fun to come up with ideas or positions that would catch him off guard. I loved keeping him guessing, never knowing what I would do next or where I was. It gave me a kind of freedom I didn’t expect, and I even tried a few “crazy” positions I’d never dared to attempt in front of him before.
I also loved how present we both were. He had to give his full attention just to follow my lead, and I had to guide him constantly, which meant I couldn’t drift into my head or overthink anything. I was 100% focused on the moment, and that intensity made the whole experience feel incredibly connected and alive. I honestly can’t think of any downside, I’d genuinely recommend trying it.
The idea for this challenge came to us while we were staying in a villa in Costa Rica for a weekend getaway. The staff had left two sleeping masks on the bed, and that instantly gave us the idea to try it properly. We had already experimented with the concept using a scarf before, but we couldn’t move around much because it kept slipping off. We ended up doing a version where James just stayed lying on the bed, but it was way less fun than being able to play and move freely.
The preparation
We’d just finished showering and had the whole morning ahead of us. I made sure to wear sexy lingerie so he could see it right before I put the mask on him — I knew it would add to the frustration of not being able to see anything afterward and send his imagination into overdrive. I wanted to start things really slowly, so once the mask was on, I spent some time just kissing him and massaging him while he was still sitting, giving him a moment to adjust to losing a sense.
Endless teasing and play
Then came what quickly became my favourite phase. I started playing with everything I had at my disposal: the space around us, different positions, different kinds of touch (sometimes with my hands, sometimes with something softer like my hair or my lips), different rhythms, pauses… I wanted him to be completely unable to anticipate what was coming next, and I took my time trying every idea that popped into my mind. Putting my panties in his mouth, teasing him, asking him to guess my position. Sometimes I would let him penetrate me, but never for too long.
At first, I was a little tense about being fully in charge. I worried I wouldn’t have enough ideas and that things might get boring for him. But as the challenge went on, I grew more and more confident, realising there were endless possibilities. The more comfortable I became, the bolder I got, to the point of trying things I would never have dared if he hadn’t been blindfolded. Like a provocative downward dog in front of him so he can please me with his tongue that way. It was really fun, playful and empowering.
An ending that Didn’t go as planned
As we both were more and more turned on, I decided on a final position to have penetrative sex. My plan was simple: I wanted to get an orgasm first, then get in another position and continue to play with him by making him guess which part of my body he was coming on. But I didn’t realised how exited he already was, and he couldn’t help but to come just before I did, which I LOVED because it showed me how good of a job I did leading our erotic adventure.
We offer two courses: For Men and For Women.
Each course can be taken independently, but they were designed to complement one another. For the best results, we recommend that both partners take their respective version.
