Penis sleeve: Our experience (first time)

Hey, James here!

After using the penis sleeve (this one is called the Flint Sheath, by Bad Dragon) a few times during sex, I was very curious about Lola’s perspective on it and I had a lot of questions I wanted to ask her. So instead of just writing this as a regular review I thought it would be cool to ask these questions here and see what she thinks.
And of course, later in the post I’ll also give you my review as the wearer of the toy, from the guy’s perspective.

(Disclaimer: We are NOT affiliated with any brand. There are a ton of penis sleeves and similar products out there that are probably just as good or maybe even better than this one. We paid for the toy ourselves and we are in no way compensated for this)

If you’re really curious about it and wanna watch the video of us trying it out, you can find it in our erotic film library:

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J: What was your initial reaction when I first brought up the idea of buying that penis sleeve?

I wouldn’t have dared to ask you to wear that. I’d have been scared of hurting your feelings (I know most guys are sensitive about the size of their penis.). And TBH, I didn’t even know these things existed before. But I got really excited by the idea because I’d already played with large dildos and knew I loved the feeling of something bigger. But dildos have two downsides for me: first, it can be hard to make it feel like a team effort, I often feel like I’m playing and you’re just watching. And second, when I use something bigger than a regular penis, I want to be able to fully relax, which is difficult when I’m squatting over a toy that’s fixed to the floor with a suction cup or base. I’ve always wished I could just lie on my back and relax instead of having to create the movement myself. So this immediately felt like the best of both worlds.

So, does size actually matter?

I do think size matters to an extent, but I’m also convinced that you can have amazing sex and intimacy with a penis of any size. For me, the ideal is not too long (I’m pretty sensitive down there and it can hurt), but I’ve discovered that I really enjoy the feeling of added thickness/girth.

How did it feel during sex? Does the added size mean more pleasure?

What I love about the toy is that, once in a while, I get to experience something completely different. Suddenly the size is doubled, and I get to enjoy the anticipation, the excitement, a different sensation and even a slightly different orgasm. It’s really pleasurable.
The psychological aspect was the most powerful here. When I first saw the toy I wasn’t really impressed but once James put it on it definitely looked very impressive! Only that made me horny, even before we started to penetrate me with it. Then he started with only the tip, which was already a lot, and the only thing I could think of was “more is coming”, it would get more intense, probably hurt a little, and he would do that to me, and it would turn him on to do so. That’s all I need to feel extra turned on. Then, the feeling of having it all inside is really amazing, because there are different textures on the toy, and it’s pressing hard on all the pleasure spots in the vagina. So it was super intense and I LOVED IT.

Does that mean that you will be disappointed with my “regular size” the next time we have sex without this toy?

So, do I want you to actually have a penis that thick? Absolutely not. I love the sex we have, and if you suddenly had that size permanently, I’d probably just get used to it anyway, so it wouldn’t feel special anymore.
Here the sleeve is attractive because it’s a novelty, but just like you’d get sick of eating your favourite meal every day, I wouldn’t want to use it every time we have sex. That’s actually what I love about it: it gives us variety. One day can be oral, another can be slow sex, another can be more adventurous or BDSM… and this is just another experience we can add to the mix.

What do you think is one of the biggest misunderstandings people have about these penis sleeves?

That it’s only for people who have small penises or are insecure about their sizes. Actually, one of my favourite things about all of this is that YOU came up with the idea. To me, that translated into: “I’m confident in my ability to give you pleasure, I have no issue with the size of my dick, and I think it could be fun”
And that’s hot. Very hot.
Because to me, it shows that you’re putting my pleasure and my experience first, rather than seeing this as some kind of comparison or replacement.

Final word for other couples reading this?

For the guys, if you feel like your partner might enjoy experiencing a size up once in a while, I’d say be confident enough to try one of these toys together! It’s not gonna “replace” you and it’s super cool to try.
For the ladies, wanting to experience something bigger than usual is a fantasy a lot of us share (and I mean A LOT). So if you feel drawn to it, please don’t hold yourself back because of what you think it might “say about you.”
Wanting to try something adventurous in bed doesn’t make you too slutty or “too much” or whatever. What you try in bed doesn’t define you as a person, but the fact that you’re willing to experiment with your intimacy means that you’re a curious human being, comfortable with the vision of your femininity, and open minded. So if anything, I’d take that as a compliment.
Let’s normalize the fact that we have desires and fantasies too. It’s okay to want something different from vanilla sex!!
And I promise you, stepping a little outside your comfort zone here (if you’re into it) is worth it. Worst-case scenario, if you don’t like the toy, you don’t have to use it again. But trying things like this with your partner will build your complicity and intimacy either way.

James’ Perspective & Review

Why I was excited about this:

As Lola mentioned I was very curious about trying this, after almost 6 years together it’s rare to find something you’ve never even heard of and that would be a completely new experience. I also love the idea of being able to pleasure her in new ways and with new / different sensations.

Putting the Flint Sheath on & taking it off:

I kind of expected this part to be a little challenging so I actually practiced by myself the first time. It’s actually not so bad! The secret is really to make sure there’s enough lube inside the toy. The silicon material the sleeve is made of is soft enough that you can easily bend or stretch it in any way you need in order to get it on. Then you put your balls through the strap and you’re ready to go. The only thing that can be challenging is if your hands are covered in lube and you can’t get a good hold on the sleeve.
In our video you’ll see that I’m asking Lola to put the lube inside the toy for me. That way I can easily grab it and put it on.
Taking it off is super easy, no problem there.

How it feels during sex:

That’s where the biggest surprise was for me. When I saw the pictures online and we ordered it I kind of thought “That’s amazing, Lola is going to have so much pleasure. But I probably won’t feel a thing.” Like I really expected that the toy would remove any sensation I might usually get during sex.

It’s actually not the case! The inside of the toy is super soft and rugged with textures. And since you put quite a lot of lube inside of it there is actually some play when you penetrate your partner back and forth. And because the toy will make things very tight in your partner’s vagina, this can really feel amazing.

Now is it as good as raw sex? Not really, but I think that’s another benefit of the toy, not a downside. I have found that the slightly reduced sensations mean we can make the sex last a lot longer, without the risk that I might orgasm too soon. I know Lola sometimes likes it when I go full intensity and really fuck her deep and hard and for me it can be hard to keep that kind of rhythm for a while. With the toy, I can.
It’s a good balance: I still have a lot of pleasure, and I have more control.

The visual side of things:

This is maybe the biggest turn on for me. I find it so hot to see Lola take something so big. I love to see how it stretches her and fills her completely. And yes we have used large dildos previously but this is so much better because I feel much more part of the action with the sleeve. I can still have sex the way I want: choose the rhythm I want, tease her with just the tip or long slow strokes and have my hands free to play with her breasts. But I also get to see this amazing view of her taking “my” extra large dick.

Conclusion:

We have a lot of sextoys for couples. Many are fun to experiment with, but we inevitably find ourselves forgetting about them or leaving them behind for one reason or another: too big/heavy to travel with, no battery when you pick it up because you haven’t charged it in months, etc.
So far this one has been different: we can pack it in our suitcase, there’s no battery, it’s light, easy to clean, doesn’t make any vibrating noise, and just really fun to use. For all these reasons, we found ourselves grabbing it really often these past couple of months and it’s quickly becoming our favorite accessory to add when we want to spice things up.