Rules of the challenge
Both of you are going out spend some quality time together: it could a date, going to the movies, eating out, or maybe exploring a new city like we did.
For the whole duration, she will be wearing a remote control vibrating sex toy that he is in control of (through a remote or a smartphone app).
The goal is for him to be completely in charge of the vibrations and to tease her without notice or warning.
What you need
Tips
Are you curious to see how it went for us? Watch the video of us taking on this challenge here.
What James loved
I love being in control of Lola’s pleasure in general so this was perfect for me! There’s something super exciting about knowing that your partner partner is wearing a sex toy that you’re in control of. That you get to decide when you will activate the vibrations and for how long. And once you do so, you can see the subtle change in your partner’s eyes as they try to suppress 1) the surprise as the toy starts, and then 2) the sensations of pleasure that slowly build up. And just as suddenly as it started, you can take the vibrations away to play with an element of teasing or frustration. It was just super hot for me to watch her reactions and try to imagine what she felt as I slowly increased the intensity of the vibrations.
Why Lola loved
What I enjoyed most about the experience was the sense of complicity between us. It felt like we were sharing a private secret in the middle of some very public places and crowds. Something only we knew, and that made the whole moment feel very playful. The mix of surprise and anticipation kept me completely present, never sure when James would trigger it or how it would feel. And being able to receive pleasure (actually reaching orgasm) while people were all around us completely unaware, was SO exciting. The only downside I can think of is that after a while the toy became uncomfortable to wear, especially when walking. If we do it again, I’d keep it to a single, special activity, like a dinner out or a cinema date, rather than exploring the city during 4 hours 😂
That challenge had been on our mind ever since our friend Anna suggested it but we never had the right set of conditions to try it out. That is, until we recently visited the beautiful city of Amsterdam for 48 hours.
Plenty of things to do. Lots of great sex shops. This was our chance.
Saturday, 4pm – finding a toy
First stop, the sex shop. After much deliberation on size, comfort, connectivity we finally decided on this very cute butterfly vibrator that you can control with your phone.
Sunday, 8am – First test
We woke up excited to try our new toy, and we unboxed it first thing in the morning.
We went for a fairly cheap toy and so we were quite surprised to see that it had two motors (one for the clitoris and one internal for the g-spot) and was actually well made. When we went to download the app though, that’s when we realized why it might have been good to go for a better brand. The setup wasn’t easy, the app is a mess and the connection is a bit of a hit or miss. We managed just fine but if we wanted a remote control toy that we use regularly we would invest in something more expensive for sure.
Anyway, after testing it out and making sure we couldn’t see the toy through my leggings, we were ready to head out and explore the beautiful city of Amsterdam.
10am – the Uber ride
We decide to start with a brunch in one of the trendy neighborhoods of Amsterdam and I’m not sure about the whole cycling while wearing a sex toy so we opt for a more conservative Uber drive as a warm up. James opens the app to try it for the first time outside our apartment. When I realize what he’s about to do, the inside of the car suddenly feels very quiet, and the Uber driver feels uncomfortably close. I get anxious that he’ll hear the vibration and that the whole situation will become painfully awkward. Fortunately, it turns out to be much quieter than I expected. We don’t hear anything at all (which is good, because James is struggling to figure out how to turn it off). My first reaction is that I just can’t stop laughing. I don’t know if it’s because I’m tense, but I keep giggling, and my mind isn’t even connecting the vibrations to anything sexual at first. I’m just shy and a little overwhelmed during the drive.
10.30am – an eventful brunch
We sit down and place our order, and then James decides it’s time for a second try. This time, I already know the sensation and what to expect, so I’m much more relaxed, and things start to get interesting. I feel a warm sensation in my lower belly, and I practice keeping a straight face and smiling at the waitress whenever it happens. It goes on and off throughout the whole brunch, but James never leaves it on long enough for me to reeeeally enjoy it. I’m getting both excited and a little frustrated, but he seems to have fun.
11.30am – the boat taxi
To continue our explorations, we decide to head to the NDSM, a quirky waterfront area with street art, old shipyard vibes, and cool bars. The best way to get there is by taking the free ferry, where you stand among a crowd of passengers and bikes for about ten minutes before arriving on the other side. James knows that I’m really turned on by the idea of receiving pleasure in front of other people, he does’t hesitate to use it here as well, and I’m feeling the tension building up.
12pm – testing the limits
After walking around for a while, we decide to get a drink and relax in one of the bars that has a “beach terrace” along the water. Even though the terrace is full of people, we’re seated a bit away from the other tables, so we decide to let it run for a long time to see if I can have an orgasm in public. It doesn’t take long… Being outside with all these people increases my excitement, and I do everything I can to hide the wave of pleasure that overwhelms me and to stop myself from screaming as I usually do. I look at James, and he seems really turned on as well by what he just witnessed. That’s the moment we decide it’s time to go home, to see if I might even have a second orgasm today. 😇
Here are a few of stills from the video:
Hunting for the perfect toy.
Brunch is about to get exciting.
Lola actually doing a great job at acting natural!
Cycling through the beautiful streets of Amsterdam.
The grand finale.
We offer two courses: For Men and For Women.
Each course can be taken independently, but they were designed to complement one another. For the best results, we recommend that both partners take their respective version.
