When it comes to porn, the internet often delivers the same verdict: Porn is bad for you.
You’ll hear claims that it’s addictive, unrealistic, or makes you feel guilty. But in our hyper-connected world, where information flows freely, the idea that porn will disappear seems unrealistic to us. Especially for younger generations who will inevitably go online when looking for answers about sex. Unfortunately, those answers can be misleading or flat-out wrong.
So, we asked ourselves: Can we save porn?
Can we create porn that’s healthier, more authentic, and accurately represents what good sex should look like?
We’ve probably recorded ourselves having sex over 400 times. The videos from last week couldn’t be more different from our first videos we shot more than 6 years ago. The motivation behind their evolution was always: what don’t we like about regular studio porn that we can do differently in our own films? And over the years we came up with 3 main pillars that we live by:
People want to know: “Who am I watching?” “Are they’re actually enjoying the sex or pretending?”, and “Why are they making content? Do they have alternatives? Is it for survival or by choice? etc”. Our answer to that was transparency: being honest with our audience, sharing our motivations, and ensuring that every piece of content we create is enjoyable and authentic. If we’re not feeling it, we don’t film it. We think that this honesty builds trust and connection: if you know that the connection is genuine and that the pleasure is real, you can watch porn and feel good about it. Without that feeling of doubt or guilt that can sometimes come after watching something you’re unsure of.
Traditional porn presents an unrealistic view of sex.
To be fair this is not just pro studios, we’ve also seen more and more amateur couples fall for this same trap recently. PornHub is no different than YouTube, you get paid based on views and other metrics, your thumbnail will dictate the amount of views you get etc. A creator that can consistenly get over a million views on PornHub will easily be in the $5-10k payout per month, just on ad revenue.
That means that the incentive to start creating sextapes based on what you know will do well (more explicit angles and closeups, step sister fantasies, trendy kink) compared to simply capturing your sex life in a genuine way, is quite strong.
So what about us then? Well we can’t pretend that we don’t care about money at all. But we decided that it could never be the metric we optimise for. It’s the consequence of the rest, not the goal for what we do. We had to accept that a lot of our creators friend often make 5 to 10x more than we do, even with much smaller audiences. And that’s ok, we’re here because we love the process and because we want to create something beautiful and honest that will resonate with other couples. So when it comes to filming we aim to keep things genuine, both in front of and behind the camera, without altering our natural sex life for the sake of views. Real sex, not performative, is what creates healthier and more enjoyable content. We’re responsible for showing what loving, authentic intimacy looks like.
99.9% of adult content online is missing this key element. Porn shouldn’t just be about sex; it should reflect connection. If you see a film or read a book and sex happens between two characters, the only reason I get excited is because your have context, you feel like you know them and their story. There’s tension, there’s drama, there’s life. If I say “well imagine that Protagonist A is now going to fuck Protagonist B in doggystyle, and you know nothing about them.”
Are you interested? No? Well, that’s exactly what porn is.
Sex scenes in books or movies would loose all their appeal without the buildup and context provided by the writers. Same thing applies in real life: sex with someone you just met doesn’t have the same emotional depth and feeling than with with the person you’ve been loving for years and that you’re just seeing for the first time in months after being apart. We are social animals, sex happens in the minds and in the “heart” just as much as it happens in the genitals. And porn shouldn’t be about watching complete strangers’s body parts slapping away at each others in closeup shots for 5 minutes. No names, no stories, faces blurred or cutoff, no context. If shame is what the creator feel when producing, shame is what you feel when watching. But that’s a topic for another post, back to our third pillar:
How do we handle context in our videos? By sharing our daily lives alongside our sex life, by making sure we show what our normal interactions outside of sex look like. By talking about what we love, what’s great in our relationship or what we’re trying to improve. By being human, transparent and vulnerable, we try to build a deeper bond with our audience. And if viewers can relate to us, it makes the intimate scenes more meaningful.
One last thing that’s been a big issue for amateur creators trying to monetise their videos or get more views: when porn becomes only about bodies and sex, it often pushes creators toward increasingly extreme content. If genitals is all you can show, how do you get more views? Or do you get on the front page? The only lever you can pull is increase the sex intensity: more holes, more dicks, more cum, more tabboo sex, etc. There’s nothing wrong with that, but these are the practices that NEED the most context.
On the other hand, if you have a story, if you can become someone people know and relate to, you can create adult videos that don’t need to be outrageous to be satisfying.
The Sex Vlogs are our attempt at blending all these elements into the most exciting form of adult content we could think of. We sat down and thought:
“If you could create the perfect porn video to watch, what would it look like?”
Instantly we knew: the dream format for us would be a blend of a YouTube vlogs and our favorite homemade sex videos. Think travel meets adventure meets porn. That’s what we wanted to watch. And so that’s what we started making.
A Sex Vlog starts just like your usual YouTube vlog: we’re in Costa Rica, taking you along as we explore the jungle on our ATV, talking about the things we love and our pans for the trip, showing you one of our early sunrise surf sessions. But as we get back home to take a shower together, and where the YouTube vlog has to stop, the camera keeps rolling and you get to see that side as well. For us that’s the best of both worlds, it’s the dream format.
We make different styles of videos, but the Sex Vlogs are by far our favorite, we love going on adventures and sharing them with you guys!
(And it’s also the format we recommend for couples looking to watch something together!)
We offer two courses: For Men and For Women.
Each course can be taken independently, but they were designed to complement one another. For the best results, we recommend that both partners take their respective version.
