If there's one thing we've learned from being online creators, it's that a few topics always spark heated debates—religion, politics, and facials. Yes, facials. We had no idea this would be such a divisive subject until we posted a video featuring one. Some people were shocked, others disapproved, and a few even questioned our dynamic as a couple. That reaction made us curious: why is this act so controversial? So, we did what any responsible couple would do—we turned to Reddit for research. Here’s what we found, along with our own take on the three biggest myths about facials.
One of the most common misconceptions is that facials are only enjoyable for men. As a woman, I (Lola) can confidently say that’s not true. I love facials. It’s honestly something that turns me on, and before this conversation, I never even thought of it as controversial. It’s not about being passive or submissive—it's about feeling sexy, desired, and connected to James in a very intimate way.
I remember reading a comment from a woman who said that watching her partner reach that level of pleasure and having him share that moment with her made her feel incredibly sexy. That resonated with me. There’s something about knowing that you are the focus of your partner’s excitement, that he’s looking at you in that moment and completely lost in pleasure—that’s hot.
From James’ perspective, it’s not just about the physical act but also about feeling fully accepted. Some men described facials as a form of deep acceptance—where a woman is not just tolerating their pleasure but embracing it. That makes a lot of sense to us. Of course, for some, there’s a dominant/submissive element to it, and that’s totally fine too! But the idea that it’s only for men? That’s just not true.
One of the reasons some people, both men and women, feel uncomfortable with facials is the idea that they’re degrading to women. We totally get why some might see it that way—after all, mainstream porn often portrays facials in a way that feels more about power dynamics than mutual pleasure. But that’s not the only way to experience it.
For us, facials are about trust and intimacy. It’s something we both actively enjoy, not something that’s “done to” one of us. I (Lola) don’t feel degraded at all. In fact, it’s empowering. The way I see it, I’m choosing to receive something that brings James pleasure, and that choice makes it something I own, rather than something that’s being imposed on me.
Like anything in sex, mindset matters. If you go into it thinking, I’m letting my partner do this to me, it can feel passive. But if you approach it as I want this, this excites me, and I enjoy seeing my partner’s pleasure, it becomes an act of mutual enjoyment. Sex should never feel like one person is taking while the other is giving up something. It should be an exchange, and facials can absolutely be part of that dynamic when both people are on board.
This was one myth we actually had to do some research on, and the truth surprised us! Many people assume facials only exist because of modern porn, where they’re used as a very visual way to show male pleasure. But facials have actually been around for a long time. We found references to them in books from hundreds of years ago, and there was no indication that they were considered taboo back then.
In fact, it seems like facials only became controversial because of how porn changed our perception of sex. Instead of seeing them as a natural part of intimacy, they started to be associated with the power dynamics often depicted in adult films. But in reality, people have been enjoying facials long before porn made them a mainstream visual.
At the end of the day, facials—like any sexual act—are all about personal preference. They’re not for everyone, and that’s completely okay. But if you’ve never considered them because you thought they were just for men, or because you assumed they had to be degrading, maybe it’s time to rethink those ideas. For us, facials are fun, intimate, and something that strengthens our connection as a couple.
One last piece of advice—if you do try facials, be careful with your eyes! Getting cum in your eye hurts. If it happens, use eye drops immediately, or you’ll end up with a very red eye for the rest of the day. And yes, people will know what you’ve been up to.
What do you think? Have you had a different experience with facials? Do you agree with these myths, or is there another perspective we haven’t considered? Let us know in the comments—we love discussing these topics and hearing your thoughts!
